My Brother's Month

The month of August is My Brother’s Month.  It was the month that he was born and the month that he died.  I have had a few other deaths in my life, but my brother was so young and had so much more to do.  I miss him.  I feel good kinda dedicating the month to him.  I’m sure he would think that it’s overkill…..but there’s nothing he can do about it!
 
I think that it’s good for people to have a period of time dedicated to someone important to them that has died.  It helps with the grieving, no matter how long it has been and it keeps them “alive”.  It is honoring them and that it important.  I’ve witnessed people wipe (figuratively), someone out of their life because they have died.  And while I do agree that there is not a set way to grieve a loss, not speaking of them or bringing them up is not healthy.  Our society needs to be more comfortable with death and loss.  It happens. Every day.  But the one common thread is that your love for them is not gone.  It is not wiped away.  Out of sight, out of mind does not apply.  I know that I think of my brother every day.  I talk about him with others.  Mostly I can do this without tears now, but sometimes the tears come out of the blue, but that is o.k.  As I tell my Sacred Embers clients;  It never gets better, only different. 

As many of you know Sacred Embers was born because of my brother's death.  So with every Sacred Embers that I create I also feel that I am honoring him.  Bittersweet, yes, but special.  That is why I call Sacred Embers my heart work.
 
While throughout the year I have mini celebrations of my brother in my head or when I “cheer” him when I sip that glass of wine or thank him or ask him what would he would do, August is extra special.
 
So, this month, I will think more of David.  I will have an extra glass of wine in his honor.  I will have my own personal little ceremonies.  I will celebrate his birthday.  I will celebrate his death day.  But I will always love and miss him.  He will always have a place in my heart and my life.

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